One of the best reads about the poignant story behind China's adoption program and its one-child policy
The Lost Daughters of China: Abandoned Girls, Their Journey to America, and the Search for a Missing Past
Editorial Review from Amazon.com
"Evans weaves together her experience of adopting a Chinese infant with observations about Chinese women's history and that country's restrictive, if unevenly enforced, reproductive policies. She and her husband adopted Kelly Xiao Yu in 1997, and anyone curious about adopting from a Chinese orphanage--which houses girls and disabled boys--will learn about the mechanics and the emotional freight of the two-year process. Borrowing an image from Chinese folklore, Evans conveys herself, her husband, and their daughter as tethered by a red string that yoked them across an ocean and an equally awesome cultural divide. (Softcover Edition)
The Lost Daughters of China is at its best when describing Evans's tally of emotional loss and gain. At one point the bureaucratic adoption process is unaccountably delayed, but her father dies during that time and she's able to sit by his bedside. The most mysterious example of this emotional calculus is Kelly's birth mother. Evans invents many plausible scenarios that caused this unknown woman to abandon her three-month-old daughter at a market. These incomplete, necessarily provisional stories help give a face to the larger cultural processes that compel new parents to abandon 1.7 million girl babies annually. The stuff of headlines - human rights, infanticide, rural and urban poverty - is rendered personally relevant in Evans's compelling book."
Roberta's Note - Even though my own children are adopted from Korea and have very different birth stories, I felt I better understood my children's birthmothers feelings and motivations. This is a very moving and affecting read for anyone who has adopted internationally. Much recommended.